How To Become an Erotic Savant (explore my PleasureMuse process)

If you’ve been curious about how my process works, welcome! In this blog post, I'll walk you through my approach to supporting clients in the realms of intimacy, pleasure, and embodiment. Whether you’re looking to strengthen a long-term relationship, reconnect with your body, or expand your capacity for pleasure, my method is here to help you connect with yourself and your partner in new and fulfilling ways.

It’s a lengthy read and the work can be even lengthier. But once you build a foundation, it’s a process that will contribute to a lifetime of fun, healing, learning and intimate expansion that will feed your heart, body, and soul.  

Here's a glance at how our journey together may unfold:

Choosing to Prioritize Intimacy and Pleasure

Many people find that pleasure and intimacy are often sidelined in their busy lives. Choosing to prioritize these elements is the first step in cultivating a life that’s rich, sensually satisfying, and authentically yours.

Establishing Goals

Together, we’ll explore what you want to gain from this experience. Whether it’s reconnecting with a partner, exploring new dimensions of pleasure, healing things that have previously held you back, having orgasm choices, or simply feeling more at home in your body, setting clear goals provides a roadmap for the journey ahead.

Nervous System Regulation

Being in a relaxed, regulated state is essential for exploring intimacy. I incorporate somatic practices to soothe and regulate your nervous system, creating a safe space for openness, pleasure, and vulnerability.  

Looking at Habits and Ways You Respond

Understanding how you habitually respond to intimacy and pleasure can be eye-opening. We'll explore these patterns that likely stem from your attachment style, past relationships, shame, or trauma, so you can start to make choices that are more aligned with your desires.

Embracing Embodiment as a Practice

Embodiment is the art of fully inhabiting your physical experience so you can feel more pleasure. By practicing embodiment, you’ll find yourself more connected to your body, your emotions, and your sensations.  You’ll uncover a more confident, sexy, and magnetizing you. 

Developing Somatic Attunement

Somatic attunement is about becoming more aware of and responsive to the signals, stories, and wisdom your body is sending you. This attunement can lead to increased self-awareness, confidence, and pleasure so you can be at choice in your experiences.

Healing Shame or Trauma

This journey is as much about letting go as it is about discovering. Through somatic practices, childhood-regression, and/or body mapping we’ll address any shame, trauma, or limiting beliefs that may be holding you back, so you can embrace your true, authentic self.  

Intimacy Deposits

Imagine intimacy as a bank account: each deposit—be it a moment of connection, a kind word, or an act of care—builds trust and closeness. By focusing on intimacy deposits, you’ll learn how to cultivate a richer, more connected relationship… with yourself and your partner.

Developing New Neural Pathways to Pleasure

Creating new patterns of pleasure is like strengthening a muscle. By engaging in new ways to discover the pleasure treasures hidden throughout your body,  you’ll develop fresh neural pathways, enhancing your capacity for enjoyment and full body orgasmicity.  

Discovering Your Sexual Style

Everyone has a unique style that feels true to them. We’ll explore your own sexual style, intimacy needs, and love language, creating a blueprint that helps you understand what resonates, inspires and turns you on .

Types of Touch

Touch is a powerful tool for connection and pleasure. We’ll explore different types of touch, from Giving/Receiving to Taking/Allowing, and layer them with sensory variation plus various degrees of erotic intention, discovering what feels most nourishing, exciting, or comforting.

Embodied Self-Pleasuring

Self-pleasuring is an intimate way to connect with yourself. Through embodied practices, you’ll learn to savor your own presence, building a deeper connection to your own pleasure.  Men, especially, want to feel valiant in their prowess, yet, their normal solo practice is dis-embodied and quick to simply relieve pressure, becoming problematic during partnered interactions, especially as they age. 

Consent & Knowing Your Yes/No

Consent isn’t just about saying “yes” or “no”—it’s about understanding what your body is truly wanting in each moment. You’ll learn to tune into your body’s signals and honor them fully.  You can’t be a Fuck Yes until you can own your Hell No. 

Anatomy Education, Mapping & Remediation

With a focus on anatomy and mapping, we’ll explore areas of your body that may feel unexplored or disconnected. This process can enhance body confidence and bring a new sense of empowerment to your intimacy as you discover new erectile tissue throughout your body and genitals.  Who knew there were so many treasures to discover!  

Building Tumescence and Full-Body Orgasmicity

Tumescence, or the engorgement of erectile tissues, plays a key role in full-body arousal. By building this response, you can unlock the potential for fuller, more connected orgasmic and sensual experiences.

Core Erotic Desires

Everyone has core erotic desires that bring deep fulfillment. We’ll work on identifying these desires or themes that run in the background, whether consciously or unconsciously, so you can align your intimate experiences with what truly excites you, giving you choice to what you put on your erotic menu.

Learning What You Like and How to Ask for It

Expressing your desires is a powerful act. You’ll learn to identify what brings you pleasure and develop the confidence and ability to ask for it in a way that leaves your partner happy to reciprocate.

Feeling More + Active Receiving

Learning to receive can be just as transformative as giving. And it’s often one of the most difficult for many of my female clients.  Through this practice, you’ll enhance your ability to welcome and savor pleasure because you deserve it!

Repair

When we say or do things that need mending. Taking responsibility, showing compassion, and sharing vulnerabilities to grow, learn, heal, and repair. It’s a skill that’s needed to deepen our relationships.

Sensuality to Sexuality

Sensuality is often the bridge to sexual experiences. By exploring the range of sensory pleasures, living in a new found sensual state may be just what you’ve been craving.  But if you’re ready to turn up the heat, taking the sexual leap with new found jedi skills both as a Giver and Receiver, will leave your partner begging for more.

Toys & Accessories

Sometimes, toys and accessories can be just the right ingredient to transform plain vanilla to my favorite nuanced and textured Häagen Dazs Swiss Almond Vanilla that is so not Vanilla. From sensory tools to lube to kinky must-haves, I recommend my PleasureMuse favorite toys and accessories to un-vanilla your vanilla. 

Sexuality How-To

Finally, I offer practical guidance, sexological bodywork, and video how-to series on how to create pleasurable, fulfilling intimate experiences. Whether you’re learning new techniques or refreshing familiar ones, this guidance helps you feel confident and orgasmic!

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Remember, embodied intimacy is the medicine that heals sexual connection.  

Each step of this journey invites you to deepen your intimacy, pleasure, and embodiment. If this path resonates with you, reach out—I’d love to guide you in discovering your unique capacity for satisfying and nourishing a lifetime of erotic connection. 

xoxo, Dolly

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