Somatic Sexologist
Certified Sexological Bodyworker
Intimacy & Relationship Coach
To experience the deepest pleasure possible, you have to learn your body’s first language.
But the journey there isn’t always comfortable. And I know, because I’ve been there.
Picture this…
My marriage was falling apart. I so desired my husband, but I couldn’t elicit his arousal. Our sexual intimacy had stalled out, wrecking my emotions, my body image, and my self-esteem in the process.
At my lowest, I was convinced that my fractured marriage meant that I was broken, too.
But when you’ve hit rock bottom, the only way out is up.
I looked around, and realized I was tired of not feeling good enough. I wanted more. More self-acceptance. More confidence. More pleasure. More erotic possibility. More joy. More juice.
My self-development and personal healing following my first marriage led me to realize that all of it was my own responsibility – no one else’s.
But I needed a muse: someone who inspired me.
That’s when it hit me.
It was time to become my own Pleasure Muse!
After I split from my first husband, I reclaimed myself as an erotic being. I became a pleasure activist. I created sensual practices for myself that felt nourishing and affirming. I actively loved on my body. I had (lots of) sensual and sexual experiences for pleasure. Both solo and partnered! I got to know myself emotionally, physically, and spiritually, and I fell in love with who I saw. Who I was becoming…and who I revealed myself to be.
When I got truly connected with my embodied self, learned my body’s sexual and sensual language, intimacy expanded in ways I didn’t even know was possible.
During this time, I met a new Pleasure Muse: my second husband, Jason.
We just celebrated our 14 year wedding anniversary, together for 16 years.
Jason nurtured my sexual embodiment, igniting lusty adventures that ultimately developed into a grounded marriage. But like so many couples, our heated and passionate intimacy became obligatory sex when we tried for several years to conceive.
I took a break from the high stress as a TV Producer and opened up a Health Coaching and Colon Hydrotherapy spa as part of my own health makeover. I didn’t realize that working with others in this intimate capacity of health and body connection — making them feel safe and comfortable during colonics, and maintaining their privacy and integrity at all times — was the perfect training ground for transitioning to a Sexological Bodyworker.
With Jason’s and my final miscarriage, I declared, “If we aren’t going to use sex for procreation, let’s see what else is possible!”
Thus began my training and education as a Somatic Sexologist.
And what did we find?
Deep, transformational healing. Sensual, somatic connection. A sexual relationship grounded in love and discovery.
No matter what stage of life you’re in right now, married, single, divorced, or dating: you deserve pleasure abundance, too.
You deserve to know all of you.
You deserve to become your own Pleasure Muse.
Through embodiment, through somatic techniques, and through support and tools you’ll find right here, you’ll gain a deep reverence for your sensual and sexual self.
When Dolly’s not PleasureMusing, you can find her splitting her countrypolitan time between 6 acres in the country and her downtown Nashville office to find good food and even better music.
Credentials
Dolly is certified as a Somatic Sexological Bodyworker by the state of California from Institute of Somatic Sexology in Australia and The Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, among countless other continuing-ed credentials, including Somatica® and Wheel of Consent®. She produced two LA based Sexological Bodywork trainings in 2019 and 2020 in conjunction with the Institute of Somatic Sexology and was the 2020-21 President of the Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers.
Additionally, Dolly is a Nutrition Coach from the Institute of Integrative Nutrition and a certified Colon Hydrotherapist from the Gentle Wellness Internal Environment Institute School (she owned her own Colonic Spa). Prior to stepping into her wellness career, she was a TV Producer in New York City and Los Angeles for over 15 years.
Dolly holds a B.S. in Broadcast Journalism from Boston University and a M.A. in Education from Bank Street College of Education.
Dolly is one of the few practitioners who works within both the Sexological Bodywork™ and Somatica® methodologies.
Sexological Bodywork™
What if society has programmed your body to tolerate sex as something that’s done in hiding, something done to gain the affection of another, or done quickly just to satisfy an urge? And if you’re lucky to have felt an orgasm, what if you were to learn that there is more? With Sexological Bodywork™ , you’ll learn the tools of the trade AND the hidden treasures within your own body! A Sexological Bodyworker will help you find where X marks the spot. And believe it or not, you will discover that you likely have more than one “X” in terms of orgasmic potential.
As defined by Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers:
“Sexological Bodyworkers are somatic sex educators who use a client-centred approach to empower, educate, and bring attention to the felt experience through movement, breath, touch, sound, and placement of awareness. This approach facilitates the ability to change limiting habits, unwind and release what is no longer supportive, re-sensitize the body, and create a more expansive erotic state that integrates both body and mind.
Our teaching involves a variety of instructive modalities, including breathwork, foundations of touch, somatic learning, body and genital mapping, consent, boundaries, active receiving, erotic massage, pelvic release bodywork, scar tissue remediation, and masturbation coaching. Sexological Bodyworkers believe that sexual health, erotic education, and pleasure are basic human rights.”
Somatica® Method
As beautifully stated by Celeste and Danielle, the creators of the Somatica® method:
“Through the experiential and practical Somatica® method can unlock your emotional blocks, past hurts, and unfed desires that have limited your intimate expression. Working with secure attachment and accessing your limbic system are key as we develop authentic connection and a safe space for body-based experiential learning. Our practice will result in your mastery that you can immediately incorporate into your life. By using tools to truly tune into your body, moreso than you ever have, you can hear what it needs and feels to give yourself more of what you want.
In Somatica we believe that there is no right way to be sexual or have a relationship. When it comes to emotional connection, we help people listen to one another and practice empathy and acceptance. When couples open the door to being with each other in honesty and vulnerability, all the best things happen. Every person is complex and each person has their own desires, boundaries, wounds and protectors.
There can be so much shame, fear and judgment when it comes to sexual desires. Because of this, Somatica is all about celebrating the beauty of each person’s desires and seeing what is possible for them in their lives to get these desires met.”
Listen to Dolly Explain Sexological Bodywork in her own words.
Professional Ethics
In order to fully support clients in their journey, all Certified Sexological Bodyworkers abide by a Code of Ethics.
It is important to note that Dolly’s Somatic Education and Coaching is not psychotherapy or medical diagnosis and does not replace medical treatment. While some sessions may involve talking and understanding your past and how that might influence your current situation, the work is a co-created experience that provides skills and tools to help the client develop agency and become more erotically embodied with the ability to tune into their desires and development in a safe, non-judgmental environment.